Today I’d like to share some life-changing truths from the heart to help you recapture the “real you” again…to look and feel amazing no matter what your age or starting point.
You see I know what it’s like to feel “stuck”.
At 37 I’d never exercised, was overweight and full of cellulite…..and then I found myself suddenly divorced. This unexpected turn of events shocked me into realizing I had lost touch with the real me. I’d pushed my own needs, wants and desires so far down to the bottom of the list that I’d forgotten who I really was and what made me truly happy. And thus began my journey of transformation.
Here’s what I discovered…..
Even though there are zillions of programs out there telling us exactly what to eat and how to exercise they are missing one vital and critical key that is required to succeed.
Most women fail on these programs simply because they start out with the wrong mindset full of self-limiting beliefs – which sabotages their efforts before they’ve even started.
Through helping thousands of women achieve their best body I’ve discovered that when we change our thinking on the inside – transformation on the outside flows easily and naturally.
Let me explain….
The 3 Mistakes To Avoid
1. Don’t Let The Past Dictate Your Future
By your mid 30’s you’ve probably been through a few cycles of weight loss and weight gain. Changes like having kiddies, illness, a serious accident or simply being super busy means life gets out of balance. We become tired, worn down and stressed – and it’s easy to make poor choices. Then we blame ourselves.
Unless we consciously let go we’ll carry the baggage of these failures. They’ll subconsciously undermine our ability to make the healthy choices we want. We’ll keep on having that extra glass of wine, those evening treats and avoid working out yet again – despite wanting things to be different.
First step. We need to consciously let go of past failures and mistakes and turn the page. Imagine those negative feelings floating away. Allow room for new, fresh and positive thoughts to inspire you as to what’s possible. Take a deep breath and give yourself permission to restart – without the baggage.
2. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
Don’t let others set YOUR benchmarks. Sure be inspired by before and after photos. But realize that many factors play into the appearance of a woman’s physique including height, muscle type and shape, body fat distribution and bone structure. What matters most of all is our personal starting point and progress towards our individual goals – looking and feeling better as a total person. So focus your energies on being the best version of you. You’ll quickly start feeling a lot happier.
3. Break Free From “The Scale”
Many women allow a “number” on the scale to sabotage their results and emotionally hold them to ransom. Successful women focus on body fat % and lean muscle mass as benchmarks. “The scale” is old school thinking. Body composition is a more accurate way to measure your progress especially when combined with progress photos and measurements.
The 3 Ways To Enjoy Your Journey
1. Make You-Time Without the Guilt
Juggling multiple responsibilities means our needs often get pushed to the bottom of the list. Unless YOU-TIME is scheduled this will remain the status quo. It’s OK to put yourself at the top of the list at least some of the time. A healthier happier YOU means a healthier happier relationship, family and working environment. You deserve this time. You deserve to look and feel great.
2. Understand Your Self-Reward Hard-Wiring
Positive actions when reinforced with rewards lead to results. But we all are hard-wired a little differently. Stop and think about what makes you feel motivated. What intrinsic (internal) achievements motivate you? Maybe it’s that sense of accomplishment from finishing a workout, mastering a new exercise, or cooking a super healthy and delicious meal – for you and the family. Tap into those emotions and consciously focus on achieving those goals. These good feelings will boost your self-confidence and fuel your progress.
3. Slow Down For Speed Bumps
As women in a modern world we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to achieve and succeed. When unexpected things derail us instead of slowing down to assess what’s gone wrong – we willy-nilly increase our efforts. This leads to feeling exhausted and frustrated. When things go wrong, be gentle on yourself. Don’t punish yourself by pushing harder. Take a step back, take a deep breath and allow yourself a little time and space to reassess.
3 Secrets For Long-Term Success
1. Think “Lifestyle” NOT “Diet”
Successful long-term results come from creating a lifestyle that’s easy to maintain. This means avoiding extremes. No crazy calorie restrictions or fad supplements. You can enjoy your favorite foods. Workouts don’t have to wear your body out leaving you exhausted. Everything in balance means a happier, healthier you – emotionally and physically.
2. Become More Resilient
Many women fail simply because they put way too much pressure on themselves to be “perfect”. When something goes wrong, they throw in the towel and go back to their old habits. This is all about consistency not perfection. No one is perfect! Riding out the inevitable ups and downs means being emotionally resilient. It’s OK to feel a little discouraged, down or even sad some days – but don’t stay there. Tap into those positive emotions we talked about before – the things that motivate you. Get your mojo cranking again. Change your self-talk and before you know it you’ll be back on track.
3. Eat & Train Right For YOUR Body
Now you’re in a much better place to now focus on the nitty-gritty of what to eat and how to train. This is about a healthy lifestyle for the long term – so we need a sustainable (not extreme) eating plan and female specific workouts that tone, define and get rid of cellulite – without wearing you out. Successful results come from doing what’s right for your body, starting level and goals. You don’t need a cookie-cutter program.
But what really gets results for the female body?
I asked myself this very question when I first started exercising in my 40’s. I wanted to lift my saggy butt. I wanted a flat, firm tummy. I wanted to get rid of the saddlebags and cellulite. Heck I even dared to dream of beautifully defined inner thighs. I am proud to say I achieved my dream and since then have helped thousands of women do the same.
This journey led me to discover the exact exercises women need to get these results:
- Exercises specifically for the female body, to lift firm and define without putting undue strain on your joints, ligaments and tendons. Exercises that burn fat while conditioning the muscles to get rid of cellulite.
- Fusion style training combining the best of free weights, bodyweight, metabolic training, isometrics, HIITand plyometrics.
- Using the mind-to-muscle connection to activate the target muscles in the trouble zones like the lower abs, inner thigh and saddlebag area. Developing muscle density to shape, tighten and lift these areas of your body, from the inside out. This is my best well kept secret and I’ll show you how…
You can read some of the results from this type of training here:
If you’ve been struggling to lose weight and get a lean, defined and toned body, it’s not your fault. There’s a lot of misinformation out there making things a lot harder and more confusing than it has to be.
I’ve done the work for you by developing a proven system that thousands of women around the world have successfully used to achieve their best body. Even if you think you’ve tried everything I guarantee my program will change the way you think, feel and look forever.
Yes, it still requires some work but I’ve made it as easy as it can possibly get.
Imagine enjoying your food, never being hungry and being able to maintain your ideal weight easily. Imagine looking forward to working out, full of energy, totally in the zone and seeing changes on a weekly basis.
This can be you! So please go back over this blog now and think about what you can start doing differently starting today.
If need more help or have questions, please post below – I would love to hear from you!
P.S. If you’d like an easy to follow, female specific down-to-earth plan for getting in great shape then please check out my Get Lean Program. It’s a 12 week transformation program that takes you by the hand, step by step to losing weight, getting rid of cellulite and building lean, body toning muscle — in a healthy and sustainable way. You deserve the best that life has to offer and I’m here to help you make it happen. I would love to coach you!