How One Women Turned Fear & Disappointment Into Success

by Belinda on August 14, 2011

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Every now and again I get an email that really captures my attention and imagination.

Today I want to share one of those with you!

Read what came into my Facebook Inbox not long ago:

Hi Belinda…messaged you ages ago about thinking about competing on fitness comps and you gave me some really great advice…anyway, just to let you know, I was brave and entered FAME UK Fitness Model….was so much fun and I came 2nd!! Yay….the girl who won was 19!! I could have been her mum…but you did make me realize that age shouldn’t be a barrier.. I’m 40 next year and rather than using it as an excuse, it’s my motivation so get fitter and healthier…. Just wanted to say thanks really… 
Bex

I was inspired and excited and knew I had to find out more about Bex!  First you wanna know what she looks like right?  Take a peek:

Bex at Age 39: FAME UK Fitness Model Competition

Bex very kindly agreed to share her story with us for the very first time ever here on my blog.   Turns out she is a great writer so I ended up putting her story into a free downloadable PDF the BexReddingStory so you can save it to your computer and read at your leisure.

Here are my personal take-aways from Bex’s story.

Be Honest With Yourself.

The turning point for Bex came when she was very honest with herself – when she was able face her fear of competing in the sports she loved.

Hear what Bex had to say about this:

Time out of training and competing due to an accident and then going to university with another 50 talented sportspeople really affected my confidence. I think it was then, I developed my fear of failure. I was used to winning and being the best at what I did and when I was put on an environment where this was not the case, I found it hard to deal with. Ironically, those 4 years were probably the least active I have ever been in my whole life. It was easier to remember how good I used to be, rather than performing below standard. At least if I didn’t put myself in that situation, I could always be as good as my memory told me I was. Luckily, my attitude at 18 is so different to it is now…..

At age 35 Bex was able to look back and learn from her experiences in her 20’s.  From there she then went on to participate in the Masters Athletic competitions and in 2009 became National Long Jump champion, 2nd in Triple Jump and 3rd in 100m. And won the National Indoor Long Jump and 3rd place 60m (United Kingdom).

Bex Loves Doing Handstand and Headstands!

Dealing with Disappointments

We all face disappointments.  Sometimes it feels devastating, especially when its seems like all our dreams have slipped through our fingers.  Bex’s story illustrates how we can turn set backs around and go beyond what we dreamt possible.  After outstanding wins in the Master Competitions Bex tore her hamstring and 6 months, and MRI scan, numerous hospital and physio visits later she had to finally accept the fact that she would not be able to run competitively again.

Did Bex sit around feeling sorry for herself – no!  Well maybe for a few days, but not for long.  She started setting new goals and it was then that she emailed me asking advice about entering a Fitness Competition!

Being Willing to Throw Out Stereotypes & Prejudices

In her story Bex writes:

The hardest thing was making the decision that entering a fitness competition was the right thing for me to do. I have always trained for performance reasons and not aesthetic so was not overly comfortable about the whole concept of such a competition. I suppose I saw working out to look a certain way was an inferior training objective and did not consider it to be on a level with athletic performance.

I personally can really relate to this because I felt the same coming from a classical music background.  I felt like external appearances were superficial and vain, and to dedicate time and energy to “developing your physique” was empty effort with no value.  How wrong I was!

Part of growing as a person is being willing to re-examine your beliefs and make adjustments when warranted.

 Courage, Balls, Guts, Intestinal Fortitude.

Sorry for the language but you get my point.  Great things in life require you to dig very deep.  Stepping on the stage requires courage – let alone against girls 20 years younger than you.  Read what happened to Bex:

When I entered FAME UK Fitness Model competition earlier this year, I knew I would be one of the oldest girls as in the UK they don’t have a Masters (over 35) category as I think they do in the US. Most of the 30 competitors in my category were girls in their 20’s but there were a few in their 40’s one if whom had 8 children..all looking amazing. I was placed 2nd behind a girl who was 19….age for age I could quite easily have been her mum! From looking at the photos, there certainly didn’t look 20 years between us. The fantastic thing about the competition was meeting so many girls all with different stories to tell about their journey to get to the competition.

Conclusion

We all have our own story, the highlights and lowlights, our wins and successes, our disappointments and our dreams come true.

But don’t let circumstances and other people write the story of your life!  Take some inspiration from Bex’s story, turn the page, pick up your pen and start writing a new chapter today.

PS. Click here for the free download of Bex’s full story: BexReddingStory 

PPS. So what’s your story going to be?

 

 

 

 

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{ 14 comments… read them below or add one }

karen August 16, 2011 at 1:03 pm

Great story. Another fantastic inspiration. Strange that 35 is the cut-off point. Heard on the radio once that women shouldn’t wear mini skirts after 35…. well, let me say… there are a lot of 20 yr old girls, even teens who shouldn’t be wearing some of the clothing they do. I know ladies in their 50’s who can rock a mini!
Thanks Bex and thanks Belinda :)

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Bex August 16, 2011 at 1:30 pm

Totally agree Karen….Glad you liked my story…x

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Belinda August 16, 2011 at 10:07 am

For those that asked for the PDF just click the link at the bottom of the post above or click here:

http://belindabennsblog.com/wp-content/uploads/BexReddingStory1.pdf

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Steve August 16, 2011 at 9:13 am

What an amazing person you are Bex, to be able to stay motivated and totally commit yourself to your goals!
Thanks Belinda, I think to be able to motivate yourself in training for your goals can be the most difficult part at times, so to be able to read a story like Bex’s lets us know we are not alone.
While you are traveling, (which I hope you totally enjoy!) I would love to hear about any workouts where you have no equipment, and how to put then together. Thanks again Belinda, enjoy your trip!

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Belinda August 16, 2011 at 10:17 am

Hey Steve, thanks for the comment – I have a feeling I am going to totally enjoy my trip lol :) OK, I will post what I am doing to workout without equipment – I have been working on some great bodyweight stuff so stay tuned! Bel

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Bex August 16, 2011 at 12:41 pm

Thank You Steve….It was strange to read this story back and realise I was reading about myself but I’m so grateful to Belinda for asking me to do this as it has made me really understand how my life could have been so different if I had given up or lost my motivation. It’s also made me clarify some of the goals I have for the future.
Bex

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Bridget Taylor August 15, 2011 at 3:49 pm

This story is amazing! I LOVED it – thanks so much for sharing and I want to tell Bex she is so inspiring – I want to learn to do handstands now 😀

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Belinda August 16, 2011 at 10:18 am

Teehehee – yeah me too! Handstands, even a handstand push-up, crikey now we are talking! BB

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Bex August 16, 2011 at 12:49 pm

When you come to London Belinda, I’ll teach you and then you choose the venue for the next picture…Buckingham Palace would be cool.
x

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Belinda August 16, 2011 at 9:04 pm

OK I am going to take you up on that – I will be there next week :) and I will bring my video camera 😉 xxxx

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Bex August 16, 2011 at 12:46 pm

I’m so happy you loved my story Bridget and Thank You for your comment :) My headstand project started in Monte Carlo and is now up to 45….a mixture of famous landmarks to fun/challenging places…People are always coming up with suggestions for me…My children love it…x
Bex

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Kat Eden August 15, 2011 at 12:00 am

Amazing story, well done Bex! Thankyou so much for sharing this Belinda :)

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Belinda August 16, 2011 at 10:18 am

Thanks sweet Kat!

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Bex August 16, 2011 at 12:50 pm

Thank You Kat….I’m glad you liked it……x

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