Is Your Age Just A Number?

by Belinda on May 4, 2013

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Have you ever wondered what other people “wonder” about YOU?

This week I had an interesting insight when checking my Google stats. Suddenly, “belinda benn age” popped up as one of the highest searches. LOL – you’ve been wondering how old I am!

I thought this was pretty common knowledge as my age is something I am proud of, but I decided, I need to write a blog to announce: I turned 50 this year, the 26th of March to be exact.

This got me to thinking, is age just a number??

 

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When I first started working in the cosmetic industry back in my early 20’s – I quickly realized the perception of “old” was relative to our own age. A teenager thinks 30 is old.  A 30 year old, thinks 50 is old. A 50 year old thinks, 70 is old….

Yet, how do we see ourselves – how young or old do we feel?  And how much of this is influenced by the attitudes and judgments of those around us?

More importantly, is feeling older – “bad”?

No!  Not in the sense that you’ve lived life and gained the maturity and wisdom bringing the sense of peace and fulfillment you struggled to find when younger.

But I know, many of you struggle with negative feelings when you look in the mirror.  Instead of seeing your natural beauty – you notice the fine lines, the sagginess and the loss of that youthful glow.  Maybe you feel nostalgic, maybe you feel sad – maybe there is a grieving for the youthfulness you feel has been lost.

I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be like this.

I see women every day who look old even though they’re chronologically “young”.

Girls in their early 30’s who are tired, unfit and emotionally exhausted.  They burn the candle at both ends, drink too much alcohol, eat crap food (sorry but it’s true), neglect their bodies – and take too many risks with their health and well-being. Sometimes they think they’re invincible (I know I did) or sometimes their self-esteem is so poor, that the “care factor” goes out the window.  They just don’t care about themselves anymore – and start making poor decisions.

Then I see women in their mid 40’s, exhausted from trying to be all things to everybody – a devoted wife, loving self-sacrificing mother, successful career person, caring daughter and the list goes on – with you at the bottom.  No amount of juggling ever seems to be able to make time for eating right, exercising – let alone relaxing. Life just feels like hard-work.

Then I see women from their 50’s and onwards, struggling with their sense of identity when finally everything starts to unravel – often made worse by dramatic hormonal shifts and life changes.  This is a watershed moment for many women, treacherous waters especially if you’ve put your health, fitness and wellbeing on the backburner through your 30’s and 40’s.

Wherever you are within this life spectrum, when you look in the mirror – the conversation you’re having with yourself makes all the difference. What do you see? What do you tell yourself?  Think about it right now and imagine the power of those thoughts and words repeated day after day, year after year.

It’s time to change that conversation.

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We all know good nutrition and exercise keeps us young. But why?  It’s not just the physiological benefits. By eating well and working out we are saying we CARE…we care about ourselves, enough to invest time and energy into ME. And this releases powerful feelings of wellbeing and happiness.  We feel in touch with our bodies, our emotions and energy.  We sleep better, our moods are more positive and stable. We feel more confident to express ourselves, rather than hide behind the façade of a role we are trying to play.  It’s exhausting when we’re constantly hiding from who we are deep down – when we embrace our real self with love and nurturing, something powerful happens.  Age doesn’t matter anymore to the person most important in your life – YOU!

You can’t control what others think and how they judge you – but you can control how you think and feel about yourself. So, let go of stereotypes, judgments, negative feelings and self-defeating attitudes.  Instead, embrace the beautiful person you are, inside and out – realize the only person who can make you truly happy and at peace, is you.  Make a decision right now to add one act of self-caring kindness into your daily routine.  You’ll be amazed how that conversation starts to change when you look in the mirror……

Your Transformation Coach,
Bel

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Maureen Coffey July 1, 2014 at 9:47 am

Heads up – have you considered that ““belinda benn age”” might stand for the “age of …” and not the life-span? Like you left a stamp on the new millenium etc. ALWAYS think big, ALWAYS think positive. (and by the way, I regularly just keep forgetting my age [until friends remind me next birthday] – a psychiatrist acually told me that was a sign of dementia if you can still remember your birthday but not the actual age in years. Well, maybe, though I still feel quite on top of myself.)

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Belinda July 1, 2014 at 1:55 pm

Maureen, hey that’s a sweet thought lol – anything is possible…..

My eccentric Uncle doesn’t remember how old he is….I love it, it’s just irrelevant to him. I have a feeling, with your attitude and energy you’ll be feeling quite on top of yourself for a long while yet – thank you for sharing your inspiration and wisdom :)

Bel xo

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Kathleen Graas June 29, 2014 at 10:44 am

At age 65, my doctor just told me that my METABOLIC age is 50! We are both delighted, considering that 18 months ago I was pre-diabetic, had high cholesterol and high blood pressure. Now medication-free, with great BP, cholesterol in the “golden” range and no longer pre-diabetic, the lesson learned is that the main goal should be to get HEALTHY, by eating whole foods (no processed foods, PERIOD) and getting just moderate exercise, NOT to worry about one’s chronological age.

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Belinda June 29, 2014 at 4:48 pm

Hi Kathleen, wow this is fantastic! Congratulations. That is a massive turn around in your health and your life. Well done on eating healthy, and exercising and not worrying about age stereotypes – very inspiring….

Bel xo

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Robyn May 5, 2014 at 7:41 pm

Thank you so much for your post Belinda! I’m 48 and feel that positivity is a major factor in dealing with aging. Also I have a secret frame of mind….I “pretend” I’m 29. Not only pretend but genuinely become it. It changes my energy attitude and literally my body.
I love your comment when you said “your conversation in front of the mirror has to change”. I agree. If I find myself being negative I purposefully come up with 5 positive things about myself.
Thanks again, you’re an inspiration :)

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Belinda May 5, 2014 at 7:56 pm

Hello Robyn, my pleasure – you look amazing, what you’re doing is working for sure!! I love your nurturing youthfulness technique – the pretending….it’s so powerful, I think because your body naturally manifests the corresponding feelings…..and those feelings affect you at a physiological (molecular) level so YES it really does change you. Awesome.

Thanks for posting….it means a lot to hear from you, thanks for sharing here!

Bel xo

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Judith May 5, 2014 at 2:07 am

Age is totally just a number, and I thank you for being such an awesome fitness health role model and inspiration Bel!
The secret to living long and looking well – good nutrition, strength training, and sunscreen!
(A joyful smile is great too – literally the fountain of youth :)

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Belinda May 5, 2014 at 3:11 am

Hellooo Judith, lovely to hear from you on my blog, thanks for posting. My pleasure, it’s so rewarding to share the journey together with you. Love your secrets lol – sunscreen YES! And smiling does keep you younger – it’s a scientific fact!

Hug, Bel xo

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Leanne May 4, 2014 at 11:51 pm

Me too the big 50 this year in good company with Elle macpherson and Lorna jane Clarkson of lorna jane sportswear. I had my crisis at 40 so anything subsequent is truly just a number and now I actually look just as young and am a lot fitter as kids are leaving the nest and I can reclaim my time. You and lorna jane are my inspirations for 50+ and I cannot thank you enough for providing inspiration to my age group.

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Belinda May 5, 2014 at 12:16 am

Hi Leanne, great to hear from you. YES we are in awesome company! I also had a transformational crisis at 40 – and like you, although it was traumatic I made some huge life changes for the better. Now entering my 50’s I feel way better prepared. Thank goodness. Awesome to hear you look and feel younger – I firmly believe our 50’s can be an awesome decade….for many reasons. Many women I’ve known come into their own and find their “stride” in life. It sounds like you’re on this path!

My pleasure to be here for you – I’m planning more inspiring blogs, projects and products to help guide us forward in a positive and empowered way. Ohhh…YES I’ve met Elle, back in my pre-transformation cosmetic days! See photo below – can you pick me 😉
Bel xo

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Adelle Stevenson May 4, 2014 at 9:19 pm

Hi Bel,
Another great read from you. I definitely don’t feel my age (argh 37 in June) or look my age. I think being a beauty therapist for 13yrs has helped me maintain very young looking skin as I was educated from a young age about the importance of taking care of your skin. And now with my fitness and lifestyle journey you have been a big part of over the last few years I have achieved a fit and healthy body and mindframe. I have found by writing a gratitude journal every week it makes me focus on the positive’s instead of the negatives. Our mind plays a big part in how we feel about ourselves and how the universe will treat us.
Thanks again for another great blog and little reminder to us all to care for No 1 first.
Thanks again beautiful lady

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