Secrets of a 40-Plus Fitness Model: 4 Magic Keys To Mid-Life Transformation

by Belinda on November 1, 2015

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Today I want to give you a gift.

Not a free workout or downloadable e-Book that are a dime a dozen online….

But a gift of hope, inspiration and life-changing wisdom.

A gift I wish someone had given me when I turned 40.

Back then I’d been happily married for 16 years.

We lived in our dream home and were trying for the baby I’d wanted for a long time.

I had a thriving career and felt on top of the world.

One day my husband confessed that for half our marriage he’d been consorting with hookers (while preaching from the pulpit on Sundays).

As it turned out, my “dream life” was an illusion.

I found myself suddenly divorced, jobless and childless.

I felt very alone and old; terrified of what lay ahead.

To make matters worse I was overweight and riddled with cellulite. Unfit was an understatement. I’d never exercised in my life.

I wanted to change but was facing the…

The 3 Big Lies

  1. You’re too old
  1. Your body is too far-gone
  1.  You don’t have the genetics

Here’s what I found….

Despite my chronic life long asthma, living on sugar and never having owned a bikini or anything remotely “sexy”…

Once I decided to change, none of this mattered. I became unstoppable.

~ How many times do you think I felt like giving up?

~ How many rejections do you think I faced?

~ How many insulting snickers did I overhear?

Yes the odds were against me but I didn’t give up.

And to my surprise, not only did I survive …I thrived.

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I proved the naysayers wrong and you can too…let me show you how.

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Have you ever experienced the feeling that something isn’t quite right?

Maybe you’ve wondered….

~ Why don’t I feel more fulfilled?

~ What’s really going on?

~ Are my best days (or best body) behind me?

If so…then you’ll know this often leads to the conclusion:

Something is definitely amiss with me or my life.

Quite simply…..you have changed.

You’ve grown and matured. You’re more aware of the complexities of life and your place in it. Hey, it’s normal to reflect, evaluate and question.

But don’t get stuck here in no man’s land, full of self-doubt and uncertainty.

Your future happiness now depends on doing things differently.

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No matter what your age or circumstances, you’re not the person you were 10 or even 20 years ago. Stop looking wistfully back trying to recapture the past. Let it go.

This is a new chapter; turn the page and start writing it!

 

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It begins with the little things….

~ Your trousers feel a little tighter.

~ You wake up feeling tired despite 8 hours sleep.

~ You notice new wrinkles.

~ That nice bottle of red bites back next day…and maybe the day after that.

~ Your butt doesn’t seem as perky and you’re noticing cellulite in new places.

But we’re so busy that we don’t pay attention to what’s really going on.

Until one day looking in the mirror and think “what happened to my body”??!!

Your hormonal clock is ticking. Estrogen, progesterone and testosterone are declining. This affects your metabolism, energy, muscle mass, bone density, body shape and fat distribution.

But no one is talking about this stuff. Even the doctors don’t seem to have the answers.

You try dieting but the weight doesn’t budge. You start running again but your cellulite seems to get worse and your knees ache. You up your workout routine but feel exhausted rather than energized.

Nothing you do is working anymore…

You begin to feel anxious and frustrated; maybe even guilty for being so preoccupied with your body.

So you minimize your concerns and reassure yourself… “it will be OK”.

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It’s time to take personal responsibility for your body, health and wellbeing.

No one can make this happen for you.

  1. What worked in the past won’t work now. You need to re-think.
  1. Let go of the dysfunctional habits that are sabotaging your body and health (you know what they are). If you need professional help, get it.
  1. Check out ALL your health issues.
  1. Get off the weight loss roller coaster. Let go of the crash diets. You need a balanced and enjoyable lifestyle that gets you the body you want while being easy to maintain long-term.

 

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Take a look around you.

What are the role models and expectations of women our age?

A little different than 10 or 20 years ago?

Yep, things have changed.

This is a dilemma we all face….

It’s not enough to be a wife, mother and working woman….

We’re expected to look amazing, read Chicken Soup for the Soul, go to hot yoga classes in between whipping up the odd sugar-free raw food dessert for the family. All fueled on by social media updates and photos that seem like a storyboard for the perfect life…

Here’s the truth.

Most of us fall way short of these unrealistic benchmarks.

Nevertheless, we still feel judged. People expect different things from us than they did of our mothers.

We desire change but feel overwhelmed. Our past fears and failures loom high. We can’t help imaging the judgments from well-meaning friends and family….

“Really, you?”

“I don’t think that will work.”

“Are you sure you’re up for that.”

This challenges even the most positive person.

But it’s where the rubber meets the road.

How badly do you want this?

You need to be single-minded. Let go of social pressures and expectations.

Develop an unshakable confidence that you deserve this and can do it your way, no matter what.

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This is your personal journey.

Don’t let anyone tell you what you can and can’t do. This is YOUR choice.

You’re never too old, too overweight, too busy, too unhealthy or too unfit to make a change. It’s never too late no matter what your age, body type or lifestyle.

Don’t let the judgments of others discourage you from your path.

 

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I get messages every day from beautiful women just like you.

Desperate for a better body and sometimes they even know how to get it – but they just can’t get started.

So I try to understand what’s going on…

Often they are stuck on things like macro-nutrient percentages, cardio versus HIIT, what exercise to get rid of knee fat or butt cellulite and so on….trying to get everything perfect. So perfect, that they never really get started.

What’s really happening is that they are scared to fully commit….

Scared they’ll be judged by family and friends.

Scared it’s not gonna work.

Scared they’ll fail.

Do you think I wasn’t scared at 40, trying to get in shape for the first time in my life?

I fell flat on my face time and again. I had some spectacular failures.

Do you think I didn’t hear the snickers and cruel comments; “she’s too old”, “what is she thinking” or “how embarrassing”? Heck, I still do.  

But I kept my eye on the goal.  Doing my thing.

Listen.

It’s time to take a step back and look at the big picture. Think about what’s most important to YOU. Then get laser focused.

This is about setting goals for your body, based on your lifestyle and priorities. Own it. Then do it.

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There is no perfect formula, perfect time or perfect circumstances.

Just start, don’t look back and never give up.

Once you’ve taken the first step with this mindset, you’re destined for success.

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Don’t make the mistake of getting stuck on past failures or mistakes.

Every woman I know who has achieved lasting transformation experienced discouragements and setbacks.

I know I did!

And each time I heard that little voice saying…see – you’re too old, your body is too far-goneyou just don’t have the genetics.

But I picked myself back up and started again.

Do you think that was easy?

NO!

But the more I did it, the easier it got.

So I understand you may be feeling a little skeptical or even scared about what lies ahead. That’s understandable; I’ve been there.

But what if you really did fully commit? What would be possible for YOU?

Maybe today for the first time in a long while you’re feeling hopeful that real change is possible. Maybe you’re ready to take the next step.

Tens of thousands of women around the world have felt the same way starting out on my Get Lean 90 Day Transformation Program.

They succeeded because the program has……

  • My Personalized Support so you can be sure YOUR program is exactly targeted to getting results, no matter what your starting point, age or body type.
  • A 90 Day Eating Plan so you can relax and lose weight without worrying if you’re eating the right foods.
  • A massive range of At-Home Workout Routines for all levels so you can tone up your stubborn trouble spots.

Remember, I’ve walked this path before you. I understand what it takes and how to get you there. This isn’t just about changing your body, it’s about changing your life.

If you’re ready to start your personal transformation journey and would like my help please click the link below.r

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You deserve to have the body you desire and you deserve to have the support you need to make this happen.

If you’re ready to get started…I would be honored to coach you!

Bel xo

 

P.S. If you enjoyed this post then you’ll also love:

Transforming The Female Body: Things to Avoid, How to Enjoy It and What to Do!

 

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Deb May 26, 2017 at 12:38 pm

Hi Belinda

You’re such an inspiration. I have put on 3 stone since my wedding and am finding it hard to get the motivation to get back to my former fit self. I too have a sugar addiction. Can I download the program onto my iPad?

Thanks

Deb

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Belinda May 26, 2017 at 2:39 pm

Hi Deb! Thank you :) Yes you can download the program to your iPad. Message me via my Help Desk or reply to this with your goals so I can help you get started!! Bel XO

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Funda December 4, 2016 at 6:47 pm

Woww,you have mirrored my concerns in your article. I have been trying ro loose wait and stay lean as long as i know myself but never managed to hit the target but just come close once. Wearing knee length dress or skirt is a dream and summer is just a nightmare for me knowing i have to hide my legs and not be able to find the right outfit to cover all my extras. Thank you for the inspiration and hope. X

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Belinda December 4, 2016 at 9:05 pm

Hi Funda, great to hear you’ve been inspired as to what’s possible :) You CAN do it!! Bel XO

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Clare October 26, 2016 at 2:00 am

Hello …
What an amazing journey ….
I am trying to get this Fat off , I am exercising 2-3 times a week combination of Weights, running ,and hiit training …I am not sure I am eating enough or to much …I am 4 stone over weight and my dream is to have a six pack ….

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Belinda October 26, 2016 at 10:44 pm

Hi Clare, thank you! Take a look at this article, I think it will help with your eating. If you would like a plan to follow I think Get Lean would be a good choice for you. Never say never re the six pack!! Bel XO

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Sue September 26, 2016 at 8:13 pm

Hi I saw a Facebook clip about targeting specific areas using specific excercises for over 40. I am in this category and excersice very regularyly but am having a lot of trouble trying to shift the excess body fat. I eat very healthy and only drink minimal alcahol. I don’t smoke. Please help me?

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Belinda September 27, 2016 at 1:19 am

Hi Sue!! Could you please send me a message via my Help Desk with a little more about the type of training you’re currently doing, you specific body goals and your weight and height? I will help you from there :) Bel XO

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Michele Dytham-Ward August 22, 2016 at 4:53 pm

Really keen that someone contact about me about one of the programmes please. Look forward to hearing from you. Thank you! Michele

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Belinda September 27, 2016 at 1:18 am

Hi Michelle, you can contact me personally via my Help Desk. Please let me know a little about yourself and your goals and I can help you find the best program :) Bel XO

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Talia July 25, 2016 at 12:55 am

Hello – great results and great inspiritional writing. With regards to the nutrition side of things. I am dairy? Egg and soya free ( due to allergy) and eat meat very occasionally – would love food advice I can actually follow!

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Belinda July 26, 2016 at 7:17 pm

Hi Talia, thank you! You can use my Nutrition Plan but will need to make substitutes. Please contact me through my Help Desk if you need more information. Hug, Bel XO

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Charlotte July 23, 2016 at 6:00 pm

Hi Belinda,
I love your inspiring video..I’m 43 single mum with a 12 yr old son and a busy full time job. I manage to walk the dog which at the moment is my exercise. I’m about 3 stone overweight. I’ve been through a lot in the last few years. My ex husband was murdered. I know this has had a huge affect on me and struggle to move forward. I have a lot of confidence issues and constantly sabotage myself. I’d love to know how to move forward and let go of the past X

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Belinda July 23, 2016 at 6:14 pm

Hi Charlotte! Sorry hear about the trauma and heartache you’ve been through. I know for myself, professional counseling helped tremendously to reframe my thinking about the past, to let go of the bad feelings and focus on a new future. The grieving process for what’s lost can take a few years…so ongoing support is important. Also, discovering what makes you happy – simple things like just walking your dog, being out in nature, learning something new – can help tremendously to feel more positive. I hope this helps and I really encourage you to make sure you have good support. Sending you a big hug of encouragement! Bel XO

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Lanz July 12, 2016 at 6:51 am

I am a very busy mum of three kids,wife and manger and
I’m so busy taking care of the family and work that I rarely get
10minutes to myself .. Could I do this ?

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Belinda July 15, 2016 at 1:15 am

Hi Lanz! I understand. The workouts are between 20-30 minutes and I recommend 3 times a week to start. Does this sound doable for you? If you’d like to know more about the Get Lean Program and if it’s right for you please send me a message via my Help Desk. Bel XO

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Tula July 11, 2016 at 2:58 pm

Just wondering if your eating plan would get amazing results if I continued with crossfit..or does your program require specific exercises.

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Belinda July 11, 2016 at 3:23 pm

Hi Tula, good question. The Get Lean Eating Plan is designed to work alone without exercise – so yes. I often find if women have been doing one type of exercise for a while (crossfit, running, weight training) they see very good results by mixing my workouts with their regular routine – as the body tends to adapt over time and you stop seeing progress. I hope this helps and if you’d like to know more please message me via my Help Desk. I’d love to see you on the program! Bel XO

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Nicky July 2, 2016 at 6:19 pm

Hi Belinda, I’m a 43 wife and mum of 2 boys. As annoying as this may sound to some I’m not overweight, and I’m lucky enough to come from a sporting background so have a pretty good base fitness level. I eat very healthy (most of the time) also. My biggest issue however is cellulite! It drives me crazy knowing I’m not overweight but hide my thighs and bum on the beach anyway. So this is my big driver for transformation along with the strong desire to be super healthy on the inside. I’ve just started a heal your gut eating plan in an attempt to address a few niggly little health issues and reduce general inflammation in my body. I know it’s s short synopsis of me but would you recommend I follow your get lean program or just go through your cellulite module? I’d love to learn as much as I can about fitness for women in our age bracket. Many thanks, Nicky

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Belinda July 2, 2016 at 6:49 pm

Hi Nicky! Great question :) If you’re keen to learn as much as you can then I’d recommend my Get Lean Program – as this includes a very complete nutrition plan plus many cellulite specific routines plus you’ll receive the personalized coaching. I think you’ll really and enjoy and benefit from this aspect of the program. I hope this helps and feel free to message me back if you’d like more info – I hope to see you on the program :) Bel XO

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Lauren May 15, 2016 at 8:10 pm

Well after reading this I felt like you were specifically speaking to me! Are there Vegetarian options in your program? I eat eggs, dairy & seafood but no land dwellers ? Hope so I am definitely going through a major period of transformation in my personal life and you sound like you could be exactly what the doctor ordered! I love your message and am very eager to learn more, hoping this is my starting point for positive changes that are very much needed in my life!

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Belinda May 15, 2016 at 9:08 pm

Hi Lauren! Yes I have a Vegetarian Get Lean Guide that I will give you when you join, just message me to let me know via my Help Desk and include your purchase email.

I am excited for you too – I think you are going to love the coaching aspect of the program, a real life changer :)

Bel xo

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Rebecca May 5, 2016 at 7:03 am

Hi Belinda
I just came across your page and am completely inspired! I am 42 and a dance fitness instructor. Although I am very fit and slim, my muscle and skin tone is changing and I know it doesn’t need to be this way . I am seeking a specific program to transform these changes and I feel that you may be the right coach to assist me in achieving my goals. I do not need to lose any weight I am a very petite woman. Looking forward to hearing from you xxx in appreciation, Rebecca xx

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Belinda May 5, 2016 at 4:21 pm

Hi Rebecca, awesome to hear you’re so inspired! I’ve coached many women like you. I understand you’re petite and in good shape already. I would start by reading this article re my training techniques and if you like my approach then consider my Get Lean Program. “Lean” means different things to different people depending on their goals; in your case it’s creating strong, defined muscles – well conditioned to firm and shape your body, fight gravity and keep your youthful shape. Any questions please message me via my Help Desk :) I would love to coach you! Bel

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Jen April 20, 2016 at 1:36 am

Hi Belinda,
I’m 49 in 2 weeks, Have previously lost 25 kgs, put back on a few stubborn ones that now wont shift.
I have decided to get lean and fit. I already walk up to 10kg several times a week but don’t do any “exercises” as such. I live in a small country town and have no access to a gym, so I will need to do all my training at home and by myself which freaks me out just a little.
Is your program still suited to someone like me?
Kind regards
Jen

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Belinda April 20, 2016 at 7:27 pm

Hi Jen, Happy Birthday in advance :) Well done on losing that weight…and I know what it’s like to for those stubborn extra kgs to creep back on. My Get Lean Program is perfect for you. All the routines can be done at home, many use just bodyweight, some a step or a medicine or exercise ball. You will receive personalized coaching via my forum and we’ll go step by step as a team to put the ideal weekly workout plan for you – based on your body and goals. You’ll find the support and guidance and encouragement a great motivator to stay on track, knowing what you’re doing is right for you. I hope this helps, please let me know – I’d love to coach you :) Bel xo

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Dawn Roberts March 31, 2016 at 2:43 pm

Hi
Just been diagnosed with early arthritis in my knees so could your workouts be OK for me?

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Belinda March 31, 2016 at 2:50 pm

Hi Dawn, you’re wise to ask this question. If you have doctors clearance to exercise then gentle low impact lower body moves could be OK. Could you please message me via my Help Desk so I can find out more and advise you?

Looking forward to hearing from you!

Bel

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Melanie March 10, 2016 at 7:22 am

At 39, and at the ‘chunkiest’ I’ve ever been, I thought I’d just ‘hit that age’ where things were on the decline and that was that! But reading your encouraging story…I think I can do this…I think I can be proud of myself again. I have always been fit, and had quite a good figure….until I started office work and spent more time sitting than moving! Ive become quite unmotivated…complacent & lazy! But no more! I’d love to have your guidance to get me back to great again!!

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Belinda March 10, 2016 at 3:13 pm

Hi Melanie, Thanks for your post. I meet many women like you who have always been fit and had a lovely figure..but as the years go by and our responsibilities increase time for ourselves decline..and the weight starts to go on. Not to mention, it seems a lot harder to lose it lol! I’d love to coach you. My program is family friendly and the workouts can be done in 30 minutes at home. You can check everything out here: Bel’s Get Lean Program or message me via my Help Desk if you’d like to know more :)

Bel xo

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Cheryl February 28, 2016 at 8:09 am

I really want to try your program, I’m so depressed after trying many diets and falling into that early 50’s hormone funk! I’m nervous about the computer downloading however, I wish you had the books and videos available to send. I guess I’m old fashioned and want something in my hands. Your very inspirational though and I am really considering this.

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Belinda February 28, 2016 at 5:19 pm

Hi Cheryl, I totally understand how you’re feeling. I turn 52 this year – I didn’t touch a computer until I was in my late 20’s. So this has been a big learning curve for me too. That’s why I have good systems in place to support you. I personally will help you get started, get your online downloads and log into my coaching site. I have my 24/7 Help Desk setup for women just like you that need this support. If it’s easier I can email you all the PDF’s so you can get started easily. There will be a little learning curve at the beginning but it will be well worth it as through my coaching website you’ll have the ongoing guidance, support and encouragement to get you out of that funk!! I hope this helps and I’d love to see you on Get Lean. Bel XO PS. If you decide to join (and I hope you do), please send me a message via my Help Desk so I can help you get started.

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Tarah January 10, 2016 at 9:19 am

Thank you so much for this. I feel social pressure every day. Whether real or perceived it’s still pressure. I have been active in the fitness circle for about 14 years. I’m interested in body building. Every time I get close to becoming noticeable on whatever level I somehow sabotage myself. This last time was the worst with many factors to analyze. You’ve given me so much to meditate on.

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Belinda January 21, 2016 at 2:30 pm

Hey Tarah and thank you! I find time spent reflecting and responding is well spent – rather than just reacting to situations as they arise..

Feel free to message me on my Help Desk or via my Facebook Page for more specific support :)

Hugs, Bel xo

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Judith December 10, 2015 at 12:41 am

Hi Belinda,
A powerful and positive message going into the “danger zone” of Christmas festivities!
Thank you for posting, it’s always an inspiring and thoughtful read to hear from you and helps me get back on track after I’ve been bemoaning the weight creep that can take place over the course of a year.
I especially like that you acknowledge that failure is simply part of the process of getting stronger and to pick up again from that point and just keep going with your personal fitness and nutrition goals.
My challenge going forward is to make sure I always schedule some exercise everyday and to not snack so much with my partner! He’s a lovely sweet man but definitely a snacker, and will often eat this in place of real food. We have moved in together recently and temptations abound! Thankfully he is very supportive of my personal goal of weight loss so if I vocalize any suggestions to help me not overeat, he’s on board (mostly!)
Thanks again Belinda :)

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Zobeeda November 19, 2015 at 9:21 pm

Dear Belinda

Thank you for being so brave and sharing so honestly especially about what happened in your marriage and about the snickers and cruel comments, I was sorry to hear this, but equally inspired by what you have gone on to do and achieve. I won´t pretend recently I have been hearing those same voices, that I am too old, and to accept that now at 43 years old I was now the older woman and should maybe dress and behave accordingly as if something was dying in me and it was time to conform. That is why I so love the monthly support I receive from you and all your blogs, because you are a living example of what is possible and what will be the norm in the future for women over 40 years old. Thanks so much Belinda absolutely love you xx Zobeeda

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Belinda November 19, 2015 at 10:17 pm

Hi Zobeeda, lovely to hear from you and thank you for posting!

I think many women can relate to your feelings of “as if something was dying in me and it was time to conform”.

Instead of conforming we need to express our own beautiful individuality with the confidence. As I’ve done that over the years, the answers have revealed themselves and opened up opportunities I never imagined possible.

It’s an honor and pleasure to be coaching you Zobeeda, thank you for being a part of Get Lean and Aussie Transformation Coach – I’m very proud of you!

Bel

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Xoliswa Tyikwe November 12, 2015 at 11:26 am

I am 46 years old who trains at the gym and also run marathons. I am based in South Africa and interested in your program.

Please advise on how I can buy the program as I would like to have defined body with no celulite as this is my biggest challenge.

I also have fat around my knees, would the program assist with that.

Thank you

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Belinda November 12, 2015 at 4:00 pm

Hi Xoliswa, well done on your training and running. Many women find despite being fit, they still have cellulite. Running alone won’t build the muscle tone needed to firm the skin from the inside-out. Take a read of this blog I wrote and please let me know if it helps! You can message me via my Help Desk for more information about how to buy the program. Talk soon! Bel

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Michelle November 4, 2015 at 7:27 pm

Wow ! I got goose bumps just reading it ! So true though- very thought provoking and spot on ! Im so glad I have found you !

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Belinda November 4, 2015 at 7:31 pm

Thank you Michelle! So proud of what you’ve achieved on Get Lean. You inspire me. We all have challenges, obstacles and barriers – but it’s about deciding they are not going to get in the way of achieving our dreams or our dream body.

Bel xo

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Suzanne November 3, 2015 at 3:33 am

Thank you Belinda, this is so true and so powerful!!!!!
You’re awesome for sharing this wisdom. Thanks for being such an inspiration!

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Belinda November 3, 2015 at 1:23 pm

Thank you beautiful Suzanne! It’s women like you that inspire me to write and share….Very proud of what you’re achieving on Get Lean!

Thank you so for posting! Bel XO

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