The Myth Of Natural: Part 1

by Belinda on December 25, 2014

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If you don’t consider yourself naturally beautiful, naturally thin or natural gifted…this blog is for you! Today I want to challenge your idea of “natural”. Stay open minded and I guarantee…you will never look at yourself the same way again. In fact, this blog has the power to dramatically transform your life, forever.

Take a look at this photo.

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This is me aged 46. In the bodybuilding world, this is considered a “natural physique” because it was achieved without performance or physique enhancing drugs. Yet it’s far from natural. At 7% body fat, I was so dehydrated that my tongue stuck to the roof of my mouth. My skin was like tissue paper. I even skipped a period and my hair started falling out. This was my body’s natural response to forcing it to do something very unnatural!

It was experiences like this that made me question…

What really is “natural”?

To answer this question, we need to recognize that the world we live in idolizes “the natural”; the natural athlete, the naturally beautiful and the naturally gifted
We all have skills, talents and gifts..it’s just some are more recognized by mainstream society. So instead of valuing our uniqueness, we measure ourselves against the idolized “naturals”.  Compared to these exceptional people, it’s tempting to think of ourselves as a lesser person, because things don’t come easily, because we have to work harder to get there, because it doesn’t come “naturally”.

But think about it…

What value or credit is there to be given if someone can just “naturally do it”?

Aren’t we more of a person because we’ve worked at it… ?

Yes exceptional people are inspiring but don’t over rate them or make their achievements your benchmark. And I’ll let you in on a secret, those “gifted” high achievers often have a lot more going on behind their success than mere talents, gifts and endowments.

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When I was young some called me a talented classical double bass player. But I can tell you first hand, even child prodigies and gifted musicians…have all put countless hours of practice in, often seven days a week, all year round, for years within an environment that allowed them to flourish. For a fascinating read on the phenomena of high achievers and the myth of the “natural”, check Malcolm Gladwell’s book, Outliers: The Story of Success.

Let me give you an example of how false beliefs can dramatically impact your self-image and the ability to reach your potential.

Growing up I spent a lot of time in hospital due to chronic asthma. I took tons of medication with horrible side effects. My hands constantly trembled, I was always hyped-up and I had a puffy “moon face”. At high school when I studied Charles Darwin’s theory of natural-selection (survival of the fittest) I felt like a lesser person because my staying alive depended on taking daily medication. Despite my musical achievements – I considered myself a weakling and genetically flawed because prior to modern medicine I probably wouldn’t have lived much past my 5th birthday. A ridiculous notion…and although nobody ever knew, it was a belief I carried for years, undermining my self-esteem at the deepest level.

Maybe you can relate.  Maybe you have flaws, shortcomings or weakness that make you feel less of a person, that have eroded your self-image and held you back in life…

  • Maybe you’re not naturally tall, thin and beautiful — but that doesn’t mean you aren’t desirable, attractive and yes even sexy. You can feel deeply happy, in your own skin.
  • Maybe you struggled at school, found mathematics hard or had trouble spelling. It doesn’t mean you’ll never achieve success in life or business. Don’t use this as an excuse to procrastinate pursuing your dreams.
  • Maybe you’ve tried to lose weight over and over and over again, and failed. You are not a failure. No more putting yourself down.
  • Maybe despite your best intentions to “be a better person” those old habits keep creeping back in. Stop thinking “I should” all the time and start thinking “I can”.

I’ve discovered that the secret to total life transformation, body, mind and soul..is identifying false beliefs like this and letting them go — allowing ourselves to embrace who we naturally really are.

“Natural” is the authentic youthe real you….

But sadly as we get older and ups and downs of life take it’s toll, we lose touch with this special person. Sometimes it takes a tragedy, a sudden life change, or a unexpected wake up call….to rediscover our true self again. But she’s there, if you look deep enough inside yourself…

Here are 3 ways you can start appreciating and releasing the life changing power of the naturally unique woman you are, starting today.

1. Take Time To Nurture Yourself.

65-Nurture-YourselfStart taking time to pamper yourself — you’re worthy and you deserve it; even if it’s just taking a few minutes to relax and unwind at the end of the day. Treat yourself to something special. If you continually place others before you, sooner or later you will feel the burnt out and resentful (I am sure you can think of many women just like this). Putting yourself first is a powerful act of love – for yourself and those around you. If you a little need help discovering how to nurture yourself again, check out my Super Sexy Skin Program.

2. Pat Yourself On The Back Regularly.

give-yourself-a-patLet go of feeling dependent on receiving approval from others. It will release a massive weight off your shoulders. Appreciating your own unique traits and special achievements will unlock your true life potential. You’ll begin to attract new opportunities, your relationships will be more fulfilling because there’s less pressure for “approval”.  You’ll feel stronger and more self-confident – capable of anything.

3. Get Back In Touch With Your Dreams.

yourdreamsYour dreams are the deepest embodiment of your authentic, natural, true self. Don’t suffocate them. Give them space to breath, grow and come back to life. Believing in your dreams will put you in touch with the real you…and make way for radical change. If one of your dreams is to transform your body, then check out my Get Lean Program.

I challenge you to focus on these three simple steps, for three weeks…and watch the power of the “naturally authentic you” work it’s magic in your life……

Bel

P.S. Stay tuned for The Myth of “Natural”: Part 2 where I explore the false and erroneous beliefs around the “natural” lifestyle (food, skincare and health).

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Cheryl Loffeld December 29, 2014 at 4:03 pm

Hi Bel
Hope you had a merry Christmas and hope you will have a great new year.
Thank you for this blog – you are so right that we carry ‘false’ beliefs with us – sometimes we don’t even realise that we’re doing it, it is so ingrained. Over the past couple of years I have (as you know) been working on, not only getting healthy but also on constantly improving myself (eg learning new things, chilling out, slowing down (as in not being so hyper all the time) – some things/days are harder than others but the difference is I now believe that I am the person I am becoming and I love that person.
So thank you for all your help along the way. Love reading your blogs.
Cheryl
xo

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Belinda December 29, 2014 at 4:09 pm

Hi Cheryl, you know I’m so proud of what you’ve achieved. And to hear that you love the person you are now..is beyond words. Priceless… Bel xo

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