You’re A Sex Bomb

by Belinda on September 4, 2012

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Whether you know it or not…you are a sex bomb.  Maybe right now that’s last thing in the world you feel like or even feel you feel like feeling like lol!  Never mind, we’ve all been there.

Overworked, overstressed, over our bodies, over the same old same old, over being disappointed, over worrying about if we are enough, or who we are with is enough….it all just feels too hard.  Hmmmm, or maybe things are not hard enough..oopss sorry.

So moving along.

What has this to do with fitness? 


Simply that, in my experience – how I am feeling sexually, my libido, my sexy feelings and my desires are very connected with how good I’m feeling about my body in general.  When I am feeling out of shape and unhealthy (yes it happens), then I don’t feel as sexy.  Simple.

Yes I know, normally I’m giving out fitness and nutrition advice but today, it’s all about sex.

To get you in the mood here’s a little video that always makes me smile…even though it’s an oldie there are some classic lyric lines…just listen!

Now just put everything in context, remember that prior to my 40th birthday I was the archetype “very Christian wife”, I married what you could call “almost” a virgin and only one partner (my ex-husband) for 15 years prior to our divorce.  Uhum. Yes some things do change.

I could entertain you with my post-divorce -discovery stories…..and maybe I will in future posts.

But for now, I would love to talk to you about how critical understanding your own sexuality and eroticism is, to your long term happiness and well being.  As a priority – and not as an afterthought….way down the list past wife, mother, executive, best friend and fill in all the blanks. Believe me, the majority of men around you are doing just that, right now, so listen up!

Why is this so critical?

Because at it’s deepest level, feeling good about ourselves sexually, being free to express our sexuality and able to receive deep sexual satisfaction is a barometer of how we are really feeling about our lives in general. 


Imagine being emotionally and physically intimate at a profound level, not just superficially.  To be able to really kiss the person we love (like you did when you first met) and feel loved back.   To be confident enough to open up about your needs and desires without fear of ridicule, to be brutally honest with our partner/s and ourselves.

No honey, I didn’t have an orgasm and this is the reason why…..instead of feeling like it’s all too hard and I can’t be bothered.  Believe me, the day will come when those chickens come home to roost.

In my quest for inner discovery I bought tons of books (amongst other things) and there’s one that by far stands head and shoulders above the rest.  Forget the re-hashed women’s magazines pop-sex articles and the regurgitated vanilla kinkiness for girly girls books….this book goes deeeeeeeeeeeep.  Very deep.  And I’m sharing this today because I care about you.  Care enough to put my own mild inhibitions aside and recommend this as a “must read” for every woman.

Here’s a photo of my copy (I think this says it all):

I’ll let you savor the journey of reading this but here’s a quick taste to whet your appetite.

The author Jack Morin explains:

“I’ve consistently observed that venturing into the erotic realm is dramatically more rewarding for those who, right from the start, make a point of learning how to (1) suspend judgments, (2) trust themselves, and (3) use a gentle approach.”

These precepts could even be a great foundation for life in general to be honest.

So today, think about where you are at but don’t judge yourself – allow room for new things.  If you shut yourself down, then how can new and good things enter your life? 

Start trusting your own inner voice, your intuition and what feels “right”.  Maybe the fact that  you are reading this right now, is a little sign post “time to change direction”.

And finally, be gentle on yourself.  As women we are so tough on ourselves!  Never feeling like we quite come up to the mark, are really good enough or have achieved enough.  Poppycock ( that one?).

Seriously.  The fact you have read to the end of this post speaks volumes, you already have gone further in your mind that most women are prepared to even consider.  Awesome!

Moral of today’s blog? 


Feeling good about ourselves and achieving long term life personal peace and happiness, isn’t just about having a great looking body on the outside – it’s about being able to enjoy the body we have and the skin we are living in.  Changing the outside may help but the real power lies on the inside.

Yes, it’s a chicken and an egg thing – so if you need to change your outside first to get started on your inner erotic journey then so be it.  Just don’t forget that your health and fitness goals are a means to an end – that end being a happier, more fulfilled life…..and sex-life!


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Get The Book <—– The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin, Ph.D.


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Lisa May 13, 2013 at 6:24 am

Ok where’d you get those bikini bottoms? They are so hot and look amazing on you! I’d like to give them a try for mysef… the article is great by the way and Im gonna get a copy of the book too!


Belinda May 13, 2013 at 9:25 pm

Hi Lisa! Great to hear from you.

That is a gorgeous bikini bottom – I bought it in Panama, Central America I believe – it was hand made with the beading.

You’ll enjoy the book :)



ewa September 10, 2012 at 3:31 am

Belinda is in looove:)
great post, since im working out and i feel more strong i was asked out in one week twice, and one was by a 10 year younger man, so, keep on working out:0


Belinda September 10, 2012 at 3:42 am

Ayeee my Netherlands baby!! How are you? Woohooo, 2 times in one week and a much younger guy. You must be feeling fantastic. I hope you are enjoying all the benefits of your new body (congrats on your results).

I always love hearing from you!

Bel xoxo


Beth September 5, 2012 at 1:40 pm

My husband and I are celebrating 20 years of marriage today! And I wanted to say that he was a virgin when I married him, we are Christians and we have the best sex out of anyone I know! Over these years we have developed a trust in each other, an openness and we enjoy each other immensely. I’ve never felt I couldn’t tell him what I was feeling. Maybe this is why we have a good marriage– don’t think marriage kills good sex– bad relationships kill good sex and marriage! People should make better judgements about who they want to commit to in the first place. My husband respects my body and I’m sorry but I don’t see true respect in one night stands or some of these “modern” hook-ups! While marriage is challenging at times, so is everything else in life that matters. I’m here to tell you that married sex can be way more erotic, fun and sexy than anything and will outlast anything because it’s based on true love. Don’t fool yourself into settling for anything less girls.


Belinda September 5, 2012 at 3:06 pm

Hi Beth, wow what a testimonial to marriage – I couldn’t have said it better!

Thank you for sharing honestly and giving people hope that such a relationship is possible.



Christina September 5, 2012 at 5:52 am

Yup sexiness is definitely all in the mind. It is also the same that if you feel good you will look good to. Almost as if your brain projects outwards how you feel internally :)


Belinda September 5, 2012 at 6:01 am

So true Christina….I’m sure we’ve all had those experiences where one evening we are feeling pumped and in the sexy if everyone is noticing us and then sooner after something sets us back emotionally and we feel like a wallflower, invisible. Nothing has changed on the outside….it’s just that our energy affects everyones’ perception of us.

Nice to hear from you!



Mandy September 4, 2012 at 10:31 pm

Great post, Bella Wella!


Belinda September 5, 2012 at 7:56 am

Thank you Mandles!! xoxo


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